Not Just a Pocket Pussy, Finding the E-Spot….and then the S-Spot, and then the N-Spot, and then the L-Spot, and then the C-Spot…. before getting to the G-Spot….. why and how.

Have you ever seen a “pocket pussy”?  If you`ve been to an Adult Novelty Store chances are you have.  Hmmm? I bet a lot of you wear balaclavas to the sex shop, or is wigs? Well if you were not shy you would have had the startling experience of coming (NOT cumming) face to face with a pocket pussy!  Don`t fear, it`s not much different from a blow up doll – except, it’s only the vagina of a blow up doll. A pocket pussy is a velvety soft plastic/latex little ball with labia and an inside. Obviously, it`s mostly for the use of straight men. My point exactly….

This might be an old tune I’m singing, but if you are struggling in your sex life, it is probably time you or your partner starts listening to when this fat lady sings! No matter how turned on – a woman is much more than a vagina, and sex with a woman, is sex with much more than a vagina. A premature hand, finger, dildo, strap-on on a vagina will therefore be greeted with the dismay it deserves. 

Having sex with a woman is not about a genital experience.  It is very much an emotional experience, a skin experience, a lips experience, a nipple experience and so forth.  It all starts in the emotions.  If you don`t find the e-spot before looking for the others, you will probably fail dismally at your attempt to pleasure your love to her full potential.

The E-spot consists of a few different mental and emotional dimensions.  Firstly, be someone she admires. When a woman knows she can seduce someone she admires, she immediately feels like a sex god herself!  To achieve this, it is important to know what your lover admires in people.  Work towards being more of that, and see the magic happen.  Secondly, we need to feel safe.  Your lover will only react to you on an ideal level if she trusts you.  Trust lies a bit deeper than “she won`t cheat on me” emotional safety to women is about, “does she love me?”, “will she still want me if she sees me in my pajamas in the middle of the night with my hair in all directions and my stinky breath?” and most importantly, are you someone with whom your partner feels its ok to lose all control and inhibitions.  This last aspect is the very essence of good sex with a woman.  Even if you spend hours vigorously working down under, and are panting of fatigue and not lust – if you don`t have the E-Spot in place, she will need to quietly close her eyes and think of a tree (or her boss) to experience orgasm.

After the E- spot follows all the different little spots covered by our biggest organ – the SKIN (S-Spot).  Truly where this is concerned,  SIZE DOES MATTER… Be all over her, worship her beautiful body,  kiss her toes and suck her fingers,  make her feel adored, on fire and wanting.  At this stage the Vulva is still a no go place – even if you yearn to let your fingers slip past those labia – I say NO!

The L-Spot don’t forget the lips! Not those lips! The ones attached to her head!  A proper French kiss is the perfect meeting place of the E-Spot and the S-Spot, and is just the thing to make her lose control of those violent desires…. If you and your partner are struggling with kissing that is satisfying to both of you, find a midway but never stop kissing!

 After you`ve spent enough time on all the Spots, you may know venture ahead to the rabbit hole of redemption….

I know most of you know, but for those of you that don`t…. Your final destination, one the road to small death is the G-Spot (not only the Clitoris).  It’s not hard to find…. Explore the roof of her vagina with your fingertips. Just past the entrance you will feel a place that’s feels almost as though it has rough ridges – keep your finger there when you rush to the finish line. 

She will want you, again and again and again….

She is not a pocket pussy, and after this, you will know the difference.   

Kisses

Darefairy.