Quite often I hear people pick up the phone when their loved ones are calling. Before even properly greeting their lover, I can usually hear the "could we please just get this conversation over with" sound in their voices. Then again, I have other friends, who picks up and says "hello babe!" ... Guess in which relationship I would rather be.
The matter of mediocrity in love especially in lesbian relationships is something we should take very seriously. Too many of us has all kinds of sparks flying at the start of our relationship and end up after a few months with a bland, watered down - "oh it`s just you" situation. Yes, we are women, we tame each other fast, we get all enmeshed and domestic and very soon there are little left for the imagination that entices and excites. This is a huge potential pothole for our little lesbian love lives. Before realizing it, our relationships might turn into a sad depressing affair.
Fighting mediocrity is never too late. It might start off with a little kinky note in her briefcase, an unexpected bunch of flowers at the office, a blindfold in bed or whispering dirty little promises in her ear during dinner with your parents. It`s not hard to come up with exciting ideas to introduce variety, surprise, excitement and fun into a settled relationship.
When you love her, love her fiercely, and ensure she knows, that you move mountains and fight tigers for her love... Tell her what you love about her body, about her voice, her eyes, her hands - suck her toes and kiss her feet when she expects it least - this is keeping the flame alive in long term relationships.
Make your old familiar beautiful mountain explode :) It makes the hikes so much more worth-it.
Happy exploding!
Kisses
Darefairy
