....what sticks and stones can`t break - the power of words

After a significant absence I am back to entertain you with the tragic truth and the wonderful reality…
Thanks for bearing with me.

 If we are lucky,  life allows us to grow and develop.  Like wonderful divas. We soar and mature into more and more beauty every day.  Unfortunately however humans were also made to be extremely emotionally adaptable – and tend to quickly develop a very high level of tolerance for anything, from calming tablets, to violence. 

 The universe has been bombarding me with one message for the past month and that message entails the effect words and energy have on our health and wellbeing.  So, why is this lesbian issue?  Easy.  Women are highly emotional, seriously volatile and mostly quite expressive beings.  Even though this is exactly what we love about each other (and frankly what our straight friends miss most) it is also  the recipe for the worst of volcanic disasters, emotional tantrums and even crimes of passion. 

 The fact is – it seems that without noticing, we find it easier and easier every day that a relationship progress to be more insensitive and even verbally abusive.  I am not saying you should not be honest with your lover.  I am saying we should think what we are going to say, before we say it – and most important HOW we say it.   Barfing up insensitive remarks is easy when you are emotional, but Receiving them is devastating.  It leaves scarrs and wounds that take much longer to heal than sticks and stones ever could. 

So the sequence goes like this:   X upsets Y by doing something.  Y hurts X, so X hurts Y back – this time hitting a bit harder.  After a few knockout rounds of  lover Tennis, wounded egos and a shocked feeling running through their veins they stop the  fight.  Suddenly unresolved hurt lies between these two people that once adored each other.  Over time the hurting becomes a habit, the more it happens the more numb we get.  Because it’s not possible to only go numb in one part of your heart – your love numbs too – making it easier to give and take the punishment. In time the love becomes less than the injuries multiply and we go through life crippled by pain, but holding on to what we once had. Of course the number we get, we tend to react less and less to those words, and as we stop reacting the injuries get deeper, as our partners get more drifty in getting through to us. 

Honeys,  don’t be fooled by the numbness – you are not getting stronger,  you are actually dying.  What is worse is that you are allowing the one person you chose to love you – to destroy you.

Words words words – if ever there were a lie – it is that words can never hurt you.  Give me sticks and stones, by all means – break my bones – but leave my soul to be happy and free. 
 

We need to get out of this rut.  I`ve been thinking it through – and I can only see one way – and that is to become more sensitive.Contrary to instinct.   We should feel the violence of our own words before it leaves our lips. At the time if we allow ourselves to feel the violence of her words in time, we will know when to leave before it consumes us.  If we can break the lesbian cycle of emotional outbursts, psychological manipulation, and insensitive comments with love and sensitivity and getting the hell out of there in time we would probably be much happier.  It’s not that easy? When we are hurt, angry and loosing perspective,  it offers relief to lash out and dish out some hurt of our own.  Unfortunately the relieve is short lived.  Admit it to yourself, women lose perspective easier because we put our hearts into our partners.  There are no distance to make you pause and see the situation in context and so we become our own nemesis when it comes to relationships.  It needs to be a cognitive decision – you should tell yourself, when you get that “this truck is running down the hill without breaks” feeling to STOP.  STOP and leave.  Phone a friend, a shrink, a nurse, a pastor ANYONE – and get distance before reacting.  Decide to break the cycle of abuse with your mind not your heart. Never justify hard words towards the woman you love.   We are adults – we have the power, and on the other side of the violence – heaven awaits.

Words shape  our  reality and our wellbeing.  Language is the way we love and hate.

I  will soon write a follow up on: “fixing what sticks and stones can`t break”  until then…

Kisses

Darefairy

69 sexy tips and ideas for a seductive summer down under.

Darlings, for lots of luscious lesbian lovemaking. ENJOY!!

1. Grow your finger nails. Seduce her by                    softly caressing her back.
2. Surprise her by unexpectedly putting your hand down her pants and touch her Queen of hearts. Preferably in a place like CNA or the restaurant.
3. Lick her juices of your fingers whilst keeping eye contact.
4. Don't wear panties, whisper it to her in public.
5. Pack her a lunchbox with yesterday's panties.
6. Massage her back, and have your fingers stray to the sides of her breasts.
7. Have a naked picnic in your backyard.
8. Get some feathers to stimulate her skin all over.
9. See how long you can hold your breath, muff her in the swimmingpool.
10. Have a fruit fight. Drip the sweet juices all over your bodies, get sticky and licky.
11. Ask her to tell you when she reaches 8/10 in her journey to climax.  Stop, count to five and start stimulating her again. Do this at leasy five times.
12. Stimulate her on a rollercoaster.
13. Have secret sex on the beach in the darkness.
14. Have sex blindfolded (both of you).
15. Have sex without using your hands.
16. Spend the evening exciting each other with words, you are not allowed to touch each other for at least 3 hours.
17. Spend the day in constant sms sex, without touching yourself - wait till you get home.
18. Watch each other while masturbating.
19. Play slave and master, give each other instructions what to do without showing how.
20. Wash each other in the shower.
21. Make love to her feet.
22. Kiss her hands and suck her fingers.
23. Follow the contours of her ears with your tongue.
24. Tease her with light kisses and withdraw.
25. Make cupcakes of her breasts, use real icing, and all those kiddy decorations.
26. Make her body a platter of olives, cream cheese, baby tomatoes, gherkins and everything you can think of. Eat with your hands tied.
27. Drink tequila from her navel and Amarula from her breasts.
28. Treat her with a breast mask of Avocado, lick it off.
29. Take off your clothes, put lots of oil on her naked body. Move and kiss without touching.
30. Make love to her while she is on her tummy.
31. Put a little letter in her laptop bag, explaining how much you desire her.
32. Take her on a naked hot air baloon ride.
33. Make love to her on a speedboat.
34. Watch each other masturbate whilst in a canoe.
35. Make love on the roof during sunset.
36. Take a drive somewhere scenic and make love in a car.
37. Have phonesex while she is in the same house you are.
38. Flash her in the kitchen while her mom is in the livingroom.
39. Strip for her while she is on the phone.
40. Put your fingers through her hair when you kiss.
41. Have her sit on the kitchen table, and have her for dinner.
42. Stimulate her with your toes in the bath.
43. Rub all her erogenous zones with Durex Tingle lube.
44. Message her feet and suck her toes while you hand creep up her thighs.
45. Kiss her inner legs and thighs like it is her mouth.
46. Make love in VERY slow motion, dont get carried for at least an hour.
47. Lie in the bath with each others' legs around your necks.
48. Have cybersex, with a webcam.
48. Spend three days where any kind of touch is forbidden.
49. Tell her that she is not allowed to cum, then do your best to make her cum.
50. Lie down quitely, fingers in each other.
51. Use a video camera, stay pokerface whilst stimulating each other.
52. Wake her up with your hands in her pants.
53. Sit in the scissor position, let your queen of hearts meet hers face to face. Move slowly discuss your juices mixing.
54. Push her to the floor, wall, door, window, table. Move and kiss.
55. Make love to her on a lazyboy (especially one that can rock).
56. Write sexy words on her back and let her guess what it is. If she is right she gets reward!
57. Feed her wild berries in syrup, kiss it from off her lips.
58. Bathe her nipples in honey and suck it clean.
59. Make a bed of flowers in your bath, drench her body in petals, drink strawberry Cape Velvet and play her beautiful music.
60. On a hot day get naked and play with ice, go wild all over your bodies and mouthes.
61. Kiss her all over with ice in your mouth.
62. Condensed milk in her neck, suck, lick and kiss.
63. Get two hand mirrors and explore your genitals together.
64. Get some music, do a naked "langarm" evening.
65. Play a drinking game of dares. Be ready for wild fun.
66. Work in the garden - naked.
67. Take her to the movies late at night. Make her cum while you pretend to be watching.
68. MMS sexy pics of yourself while she is at work.
69. Spend time in 69 very slowly exploring, kissing and licking each others genitals. The purpose of this is not to cum, but to get wildly turned on together.

Now, down the rabbithole you go, send my regards to the Queen of hearts.

KISSES

Darefairy!